Love

LOVE

Love is one of the most furtive sentiments that ancient artists and poets had been attempting to manifest its explicit definition through aesthetic illustrations, even up till today. It approaches our daily lives in various ways: affection, friendship, infatuation, passion and many others; but these expressions never fails to contribute to felicitousness.

Inasmuch as we are living in a firm society, people tend to have a myopic thinking of circumscribed knowledge and logical reasoning that is limited, thus incapable of broadening their sense of awareness towards certain concerns, such as love. The simple negligence directly taken from the very essence of ignorance would drive the unconscious individuals to irrational contemplations, such as the seven deadly sins: pride, envy, lust, anger, avarice, sadness and gluttony. These are common deceptions misled by banal misconceptions, but the magic of love is that it can flare them all at once just by kindling its slightest glow, igniting one’s glee.

Love is the urging of human beings to experience oneness, unity and entirety. It does not only compromise of romantic love, but also brotherly or family love and, the conspicuous one, yet essential: universal love. I believe the verity of love animating two distinct strangers as one, the establishment of destined love induced from faithful friendship bonds that will last for eternity and the ability for one to disseminate love in diversified aspects, not by means of different quantities.

When people misinterpreted love, the outcomes are deceptive. The usual delusion is that, without another, one is incomplete. I believe that the beings that we are are already impeccably consummated from the moment we were created. It is love that brings fruition; to make us conceive the appreciation of what we already had: completion as an individual. The way I see it is, when two utter individuals are in love, they utilize their integrity to work out one ideal relationship, that’s when oneness is experienced. Love for oneself is the beginning of a life-long bliss. It is, in fact, the seed of life that begins to blossom at birth; where it will learn logistics and rationalness to determine oneself. The more it acquired, the more it harvested and therefore it incorporates the value judgments based on its own experiences. Once it is able to realize its own supremacy, it will be able to identify everyone’s best interest as one and tumble to the reality that it is capable to love everyone equally; not in the same way, but in the same amount.

With the deceits one had been led to, his reflexion will probably bring about the seven deadly sins, normally dealing with pride, envy and lust. Pride is not a concern when it is a satisfaction of personal achievements, but being self-worthy and possessing inordinate self-esteem is drawing out the boundary of love for oneself; just like extending the limits of love, which will tend towards hatred. Same goes for the lack of confidence; being diffident is being reticent to one’s manners, desolating oneself on the bottom of everyone. As a result, he will let victory slip through his fingers, just because only the early birds catch the worms. As one gradually stops seeing oneself as a mercy; a helper in time of need; a comforter in time of sorrow; a healer in time of injury; a teacher in times of confusion, he will be unable to regain his strength to stand up by himself, unable to help himself in time of need; sorrow; injury and confusion. If one is unable to love oneself, how will he be able to love another?

The motive power of envy was derived from the lack of modesty; where one is incapable of envisaging the grandeur of oneself, which requires not to be altered in any way as it is already unblemished. These overconfident and timid people thrusts themselves into a substandard position and therefore, picturing the “elites” as the contenders. The bold ones will find it hard to accept another’s best assets comparatively to themselves and so they, too, find it hard to determine their own virtues and boost their values, thus opting the hasty way of bearing evil thoughts on another person of higher ranks. The coy ones, whom isolate themselves into the far corner overlooking at the distant cosmopolitan societies would feel discouraged of their insular footing. These external stimuli devalue our humility, developing more hatred towards others and ourselves too, usually without us realizing it.

Nowadays, the media from the entertainment world is getting more and more ardent of the exhibition of public insincere behaviors among the celebrities that people adore; making the die-hard fans adhere their idols in any manner of disguise, even the improper ones like exposing parts of the body. This is jeopardous, especially among the young people, as it obscenely stimulates sexual arousal and creates a desire for the superficial needs, not the intellectual depths. People tend to fancy only the physical benefits, not perceiving inner beauty. Today, there is nothing unusual about the question, “Love… or just sex?” These people normally precede appearances before ascertaining their true passion for life, that is, a genuine lover. It is undoubtedly natural for a man to feel enthusiastic while beholding the ravishment of a woman, but every rose has its thorns; no matter how flawless her skin is; how sparkling her eyes are; how curvy her body is; there will be no inclination to determine her personality.

Issues of sex have been augmenting throughout the years, where people only pinpoint on getting physical rather than spiritual. The adoration of corporeal appeal blinded these people by enshrouding themselves with falseness, immorality and cupidity. These factors were prevailed upon lust, which often interferes relationships facing an insecure prospective. When the famous question breezes in, I can foresee that often, the couples are falling in love for sure, but it matters what kind of love is expressed. When true love ignites a burning desire for physical attachment, its intensity will last long, or even forever. But when it ends abruptly, it is proven that they know not love then, but is familiar of infatuation, therefore the fondness only exists momentarily.

To satisfy an urgent desire to unite with the beloved of pure passion physically is a way for mortal people like us to experience oneness; providing the health aspects understood, every consequence considered and every care and joy expressed. This means that preparation had been taken care beforehand, which signifies that the couple took care and concern for their relationship to be maintained for long. This motive involves both spirit and physique; both inseparably intertwined to become one, providing the two individuals feeling the unity beyond earthly possessions.

To be able to love oneself is to feel trust, care, understanding, acceptance, appreciation and respect towards oneself in every aspects of life. Once one has succeeded in acquiring these implications based on past experiences, he will be self-conscious about his own consummated values and will learn to see oneself as someone treasured. At this stage, he will stumble upon compassion towards others. This is the token of fundamental love; the love for all: universal love. When he regards others as highly as himself, he will be capable of distinguishing everyone’s greatest interest of their own. This is the point of possibility where everyone will unite as one; with the endowment of love as the human urging to prove that we are not apart from each other. It matters not whether it will be happening in the near future or at the time of our descendants, but, as Paul had concluded, love is the highest of all virtues; without it, the clusters of people will not be as compact as it seems, the flora and fauna will not be as animated as it seems, and the world we are living in will not be as enlivened, buoyant and effervescent as it seems.